Choosing Yourself!
What is 'Choosing Yourself'
Codependency is widly known in most relationships whether we notice or not. It finds itself everywhere from our love lives, to work days. We often forget about ourselves in the mix of things. In the article, "What is 'Choosing Yourself'" Ellen Nguyen gives a basic layout of focusing on yourself and how "the rest will sort itself out." I have pulled the highlights but encourage you to hit the button below to view the full article.
Highlights!
To choose yourself means living life at your own pace. When someone tells you, you’re too young, too old, or you two are at different stages of life, don’t disagree with them. Don’t defend yourself. Let them have their judgment. Maybe, really, you’re too young or too old or will never seem right for them. It’s okay because everyone has their own perspective. Accept their perspective and understand that it doesn’t change anything about you inherently as a person. You’re still a whole entity, not too little, not too much, just what it is, right where you’re supposed to be right now. Choose yourself means respecting the stage you’re at in life and making decisions based on your own perspective of what’s good or bad, who’s young or old FOR YOU, not forcing yourself to fit with others.
To choose yourself means building a life that works best for you. It means believing in your ability when no one else does and embracing every fiber of who you are — even the bits that are ever called too much or not enough. Feel whole no matter how undone you might be in anyone’s eyes. Claim your space. Know you’re enough, more than enough. Even when the whole world says no to you, you keep saying yes to yourself and marching forward. To choose yourself is to break through the limits others put on you and decide for yourself when is enough. Your life is lived by your rules. And your rules are meant to work for you, not against you. Create a world in which you feel true to your core, you feel loved, you feel important, you feel worthy, you feel comfortable, and you feel safe. Choose yourself and keep choosing yourself, the rest will sort itself out.
"Ellen Nguyen, "What is 'Choosing Yoursef", Toomuchofaperson.com, January 29, 2023"
